VIDEO: HOW NOT TO APPROACH WOMEN

Hahaha. This is spot on. I have always believed that grown men who approach women in this fashion have a screw loose.

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  1. This was actually quite funny, I enjoyed watching this as it is so true. I am hearing every point made here apart from number 8. For some reason this “mantra” about not wanting a man who still lives at home with his parents is still parroted profusely by many women yet not one of them knows where this so called standard came from and yet many simply go along with it blindly. This is utter foolishness, what does where a man resides have to do with finding love and companionship? Besides, there could be many reasons why a man is still living at home with his parents, not just the possibility of him being a mummy’s boy.

    The same thing goes with the car. Since when did it become standard that a man must own a car, and if I ask you ladies who introduced this so called “standard” to you, none of you will be able to tell me from where it originated or from whom.

    This materialistic foolishness has to stop, I am not your chauffeur and my permanent residential abode has nothing to do with my character as a man, which is what you should be focused on rather than cars and living status. This is one of many reasons why many of you women cannot retain a man and still remain single up to this day.

    Another point that should be made here is many women who decide to set these standards of quackery and embark on the mission founded thereon, normally don’t have jack diddly squat to bring to the table themselves.

  2. Jokes. I’ve seen all of these happen and it’s embarrassing when the guy doing this is a grown man.

    I do agree with verbs though the line I don’t wanna guy still living at home with his mum has been making me cringe since TLC No scrub days though I think now days with the messed up economy things are changing as more and more people are still living at home not because they are mummy’s boys but because they are saving to afford a home.

    I’m not really feeling all the materialistic rubbish either it’s because of this that alot of women are single, they say they want a decent man, but really they want a rich decent man and think because he’s rich that makes him a good guy.

    I think personally women should do a video on how to approach a woman because there are alot of men out there scared of approaching women because they don’t wanna get cussed, so much so that guys are getting rich off writing books and doing seminars on that subject alone. I actually know white girls who love it in black areas because the guys have the confidence to approach them in broad daylight whilst white guys don’t unless they’re pissed. LMAO.

  3. i did not watch the video so i wont comment on it. But i find it so disgusting and off putting being whistled at and called on the street. i have never seen any other race approach or talk to their women the way black men do. it is soooo disrespected and not attractive in the least bit.And before anyone says i am generalising please try to remember where you saw another race do that, its more common amongst black folks.

  4. There are misogynists within every race on earth, lets not start with the asinine stereotypes.

    However I do think if you are over 30 and STILL living with parents it is fair to expect to be judged or asked for an explanation. Moving out of the ‘nest’ has long been a measure of independance and adulthood. We live in different times now, and granted it is not that easy to move out and buy a house. But anyone with a basic wage can rent an apartment or a room. If you’ve had to move back to the nest because of finances, fair enough, but if you’ve never moved out I personally would wonder why not.

  5. Lulu :
    i did not watch the video so i wont comment on it. But i find it so disgusting and off putting being whistled at and called on the street. i have never seen any other race approach or talk to their women the way black men do. it is soooo disrespected and not attractive in the least bit.And before anyone says i am generalising please try to remember where you saw another race do that, its more common amongst black folks.

    So Lulu you’ve never seen white men wolf whistle at women or white guys say to women get your tits out for the lads? Growing up around around white people. I actually think white guys are more disrespect to women than black men but as a whole I think men of all races disrespect women.

    I have a to admit I done the bus stop one a few times in school days but not as an adult c’mon now and never ever would I shout down a girl in the middle of the street LMAO

    @Michelle LMAO

  6. Melissa :
    There are misogynists within every race on earth, lets not start with the asinine stereotypes.
    However I do think if you are over 30 and STILL living with parents it is fair to expect to be judged or asked for an explanation. Moving out of the ‘nest’ has long been a measure of independance and adulthood. We live in different times now, and granted it is not that easy to move out and buy a house. But anyone with a basic wage can rent an apartment or a room. If you’ve had to move back to the nest because of finances, fair enough, but if you’ve never moved out I personally would wonder why not.

    Fair to be judged according to what or who’s standard? A man who is still living at home with his parents is not obligated to give any explanation to anybody. His living status is his business, it has nothing to do with anyone else.

    On the contrary, this trend of linking independence to moving out from your parents home has been introduced very recently into society. Up until the 1970s, if you were moving out from your parent’s home, you were already married and were moving together with your wife into your own place. In fact, up until that time it was a shame and a dishonour to be living by yourself, especially for a woman.

    Additionally, until recently women purposely went out of their way to look for a man who was still living at home with his parents, as these men by and large tended to have the better characters for being good and strong husbands and for future fatherhood. A man living at home with his parents was the preference. You have to know the history of this trend transition, not just go along with what you believe are the facts. And yet again, many women go along with this “trend” but can they tell you where it came from or who introduced it into the mainstream…………………………NO.

    Traditionally, a large percentage of Pakistani and Indian families all live in the same house, even when they get married for a large part. The husband and wife will typically occupy a particular part of the house and the parents of the husband will occupy another selected area. Yet they do not get accused of not being independent, nor does anybody pressure them into moving out and renting or buying a flat.

    This link between moving out and independence is simply westernised foolishness and nonsense at its height and a large percentage of women have simply run with it. What women on the whole who subscribe to this folly are really saying is that they are looking for a man of wealth, which leads us back to the materialism agenda yet again, “we want a free roof over our heads” or “I want you to look after me unconditionally”.

    The only thing that has changed in the times that we live in today is that women as a collective whole have now chosen to subscribed to stupidity and laughable outlandish standards of folly, thinking that somehow by adhering to this and the other nonsensical foolishness they hold on to and swear by, that they can now catch the best man or more so obtain the “cream”.

    Judging by the fact that the gulf between men and women is now greater than ever, I think that women on the whole need to sit down, revise and think about this road that they have ventured down. All these new “standards” you have implemented and you are still having difficulties retaining men. 2+2=4. Its not working women is it?

  7. Long post…..

    Why the blame on women for being single? Unless ALL men are paired up or married off I don’t see the point in literal finger pointing. Men also have standards, lets not act like women are the only ones with a checklist to some degree. It makes me laugh when we’re grouped together and told we want rich or well to do brothas and need to broaden our horizons, yet some brothas want to only approach us bragging in some way shape or form with their car, or talk of money in an attempt to get our attention.

    And I wish all the generalisation would stop about us only wanting rich men, I don’t and never have, nor do the women in my circle who are dating or married. Our topics of conversation stem around love, decency, respect, trust and loyalty in our relationships, and money is NEVER an issue or a topic raised. I see a lot of women holding themselves down or themselves and their children down working one or more than one job.

    I can’t speak for every woman but I know what does and doesn’t work for me.

    Doesn’t:
    Hollering at me whether you use profanity or not. Not acceptable.
    Trying to grab my attention by making a cat hiss sound.
    If I choose to ignore and walk the street in peace without acknowledging such crass behaviour, I’m then called a bitch or been told you ain’t shit anyway.
    Grabbing or touching me in any way shape or form.
    Blocking my path so I have no option but to speak to you in an attempt to get you to move out of my way.
    Speaking about me in a crass manner as I pass you in the street with a group of other males then have the nerve to say “so you can’t say hello.” you’ve just disrespected me and want me to greet YOU?
    Looking us up and down, licking your lips and doing that kiss gesture with your mouth.
    Beeping your car horn….there are plenty more but these and the common norm for me and women I know.

    Some women, sorry girls, like this treatment and for some of these men, it’s worked for them before. So they carry on until they reel one in. A real man will make a polite and concerted effort and continue to do so until a woman responds in kind.

    Fellas when you approach a woman, even politely you have to understand most times she already has her back up the moment she sees you coming, therefore her response to you may 9 times out of 10 come off as really rude. She’s defensive, I’ve been guilty if this too BUT I always make a point to be respectful and polite if I’m not interested. Some women don’t and this is where the nice guys get confused and feel like their efforts aren’t worth shit. Then you have the eeeeeediat women who don’t want you because you aren’t bad or dangerous enough. Sorry I don’t endorse these women, I think they are fools. I only like nice, well mannered men and the way in which I’m always having to convince men they do nothing for me is ridiculous. They never believe me, but I understand why when a lot chat shit with “oooh I love a bad boy, there’s just something about them” yes…..a criminal record and a history of infidelity perhaps.

    A lot of women experience one or many of the above every time she leaves her house either dolled up or popping to the shop in tracksuit bottoms. After a while it becomes overly annoying and degrading. It’s not flattering in the slightest for us, and can be quite intimidating and make you sometimes think twice about your hair, make up or outfit just so not to draw too much unwanted male attention. It can also be a reason why some of us walk the street with a screwface. It’s a deterrant so we can pop down the road and appear unavailable as hell in body language and demeanour so you steer clear.

    I have never been approached by a white man, only Black men, but a majority of these approaches have been negative. I’m sure had I only been approached by White men the majority of these approaches would be negative also. The same for any race of man. I’ve seen White men leer, wolf whistle, shout obscenities, toot their horn and the like at women. I’m also noticing much more Asian men and Eastern European men on this same tip.

    I don’t understand this mentality that some Black women have in thinking that White men are somehow different and more respectful simply because they’re White, or when they’re fed up of dating Black somehow dating White is going to be the solution to all their dating woes.

    Men, sometimes when you get that moment where you’re not understanding why women act a certain way, it’s best to find that sensible female friend or relative and ask her why and listen to what she has to say. It’s far more productive than trying to figure it out for yourself, getting it wrong and making a whole heap of assumptions about us. We’re not all the same and our wants, needs and desires from a mate are not always about a mandingo dick and huge bank account.

  8. LondonDiva :
    Long post…..
    I have never been approached by a white man, only Black men, but a majority of these approaches have been negative. I’m sure had I only been approached by White men the majority of these approaches would be negative also. The same for any race of man. I’ve seen White men leer, wolf whistle, shout obscenities, toot their horn and the like at women. I’m also noticing much more Asian men and Eastern European men on this same tip.
    I don’t understand this mentality that some Black women have in thinking that White men are somehow different and more respectful simply because they’re White, or when they’re fed up of dating Black somehow datingWhite is going to be the solution to all their dating woes.

    Damn that’s some essay you wrote there I agree with what you say about black women and white men, men are men simple as that if you’re having trouble with black men chases are you gonna have the same trouble with white men

    To be honest I think women are OK with men living at home if they are ambitious and going places, not if they are living at home, because they are mummies boys, can’t cook clean or anything. I think the reason for this is becuase times have changed back in the day men were raised to be men now they aren’t especially in black community, where in a high percentage of homes there is no man around and black women raise they’re daughters and spoil their sons.

    Alot of the time men don’t know how to approach women and the media makes it a whole lot worse.

  9. @ London Diva

    You are correct, men do have standards also, but the video here is specifically dealing with women and their standards and expectations, so until men in like manner release a video like this, I am going to continue dealing with the issue at hand which is the women’s side and what they expect. I can deal with the men side at anytime, their expectations and their standards, whether they be good, outlandish and stupid also, but then we would be going off topic as again, the video is dealing with expectation of women, not men.

    I never grouped women together into one bracket, which is why I specifically stated “as a collective” or “as a whole”. This term automatically excludes the individual women who do not subscribe to the nonsense. Again, I never stated that all women want a rich man, read through my post again and note the terms I used.

    Those brothers you talked about who brag about their wealth to women in order to get their attention are quite frankly chiefs and idiots(in my opinion), but again the issue at hand here is the women, not the men.

    There you go, you and your circle of women are automatically excluded out from the women in general who cosign to the nonsense. I am fully aware that there are plenty of women out there like yourself who focus on love, honour, dignity, respect, affection, trust, loyalty and the likes thereof, this is a good thing and I commend these women for not conforming to stupidity and nonsense aswell as working hard to support themselves and their children.

    This is precisely why I agreed with the rest of the video bar number 8, a woman should be approached with respect and I disagree with the way some men try to get a women’s attention, it is utter foolishness, disrespectful to the maximum and needs to stop. However, be careful as many men have tried to approach women in a decent respectful manner only to be met by multiple sub machine gun and cannon fire. You talked about generalisations, I shouldn’t be receiving gun fire and hostility because of some idiot you met down the road 5 minutes or 5 hours ago.

    Women in general need to deal with men as individuals, you back should go up only when the man shows the same stupid tendencies as the common chiefs who lurk about, and not beforehand.

    On the issue of black women crossing the fence, I totally agree, it is utter folly to think that somehow now your woes will disappear because you are dating a man of a different nationality. Chicken neck men are everywhere and they exist in all forms, dating a different race by far does not guarantee that you will not run into a chief, and many black women who think in this manner have deluded themselves.

    Cosign Chico Rei, the media has played a huge part in this calamity on both sides of the fence, with men and women and the way they “think” they should relate to one another.

    Another issue here is accountability, women in general need to take accountability for their part in their current state today, and not be so fast to distribute the blame to others when you feet are held to the fire for YOUR part.

  10. Verbs to answer youR ‘by whose standards’ question. By MY standards. My mothers house is always there If me or any of my siblings are in transition but we have always been encouraged to own our property. My father specifically pushed us girls to do this so we were not dependant on any rich man. My concern would be this man living with his mother and swapping this house for my house without any effort to add to or uplift my life as I would seek to do with his.

    In addition, I am a huge supporter in the Asian method of living with family after marriage do you can save for your own property. As I stated above, we are living on different times and there are many cautionary tales to be heard about men living with different women. So yes I would ask and judge. Not because I’m filling done foolish trend you described. But that’s just me.

  11. But the point I’m making here Melissa is that this isn’t your standard, nor did you come up with the idea to critique men based upon their living status, it was handed down to you. You picked up this standard via osmosis however, you don’t know at what point or who handed it down to you. I would simply say that I don’t think it is wise to go along with things that you don’t know the origin of.

    The point has to be emphasized again, how nobody knows the origin of this standard, yet many women will simply just go along with it without asking questions as to its origin. Isn’t it wiser to know the root of something you subscribe to rather than following a trend on pure faith and belief?

    Remember, just because a large portion of women do this, it doesn’t automatically mean that it is right, in fact I would say that this standard aswell as many others that many women have grasped have actually become stumbling blocks and hindrances to them in trying to find and retain a decent man.

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