Would you stick by your women if they had bad hair?
Check out this weave verses natural hair ‘debate’ featured on the online talk show Bedroom Diaries Of A Black Woman with Benny Bonsu and Issak Badru.
[Thanks Melissa]
I don’t have a problem with weaves and I also love the natural look.
But it sounds like Benny has an issue with natural hair. Why does she insist on referring to our hair in its natural beautiful state as “nappy” and “bald” with a tone of mockery and disdain in her voice? What is that all about? Not once during this discussion has she used the word “natural” to describe weave and chemical free hair.
And the blatant promotion and endorsement of a weave company (a Sponsor) whose brand of Brazilian hair reminds me of the shiny, European straight, silky and synthetic looking weave of the early nineties is laughable and just really sad.
Black people seriously need to WAKE UP!!!!!
In response to the Twitter feedback /backlash regarding this discussion Ms Bonsu tweeted,
*Those of you who are interested in donning your natural hair I highly recommend using products from The Hairoine. Visit: www.thehairoine.com*
Mad News readers your thoughts please…..
MAD NEWS UK 
absolutely!!! ..
Now they made real sense here… I would rather have my woman with natural hair. But it is her choice to wear it anyways she pleases. But i will draw the line with tracks showing or natural hair in the front…then super straight in the back.. Your head your choice…. Rock what makes you feel good….
It should be the other way round. Would you stay with your woman if she’s addicted to weave.
Anyhow that video went off topic that guy could’ve went home and she wouldn’t have noticed a thing it was all about the dos and donts of weave and how great her hair is which I might add didnt look so great to me as it doesn’t look her own and the style doesn’t suit her imho.
To the question, of course I’d stick by, if a woman looks after and styles her natural hair nicely their is no better. It adds a strength and confidence that I find very attractive and can’t be matched whether its low as a boy or an Afro etc.
How much that company pay the woman to keep advertising their name KMT. I like black women with natural hair, especially the funky afro look. I hate all this weave, wig etc most of the time it looks rubbish.
First off I find utterly funny how Black Men do like the hair that it is growing out of their scalp is different from Black Women ones.
I don’t understand why Black People call their hair nappy, it’s not okay to be called a nigger why should it be okay to tell our hair is nappy since this word is rooted in racism.
Secondly, I hate when Men give their opinion about women’ hair choices , like anything a woman does to her body is to please men. Long / straight hair is not associate with femininity for everybody
and finally that obvious product placement was so funny.
Although I don’t really care for weaves etc.. I truly wish more Black women have better haircare practices.
I forgot to add Black folks are the only people in the world who would question what they were born with and wonder if it’s attractive enough or make them lovable or f…able! lol!
Nubiahbella we are the only ones who question anything about us… I wrote about this in facebook and to my surprised most of the Blacks couldn’t say anything. I just shook my head.. Everything about us we don’t find attractive at all. And we expect others to…makes no sense to me. If you don’t love who you are and how you are made….then why would anyone else… SELF LOVE….IT’S NOT THAT HARD.
When money talk bull****** walks. These days people are willing to do and say anything in order to make a buck. In the word of Dr. Seuss “Why try to fit in, if you were born to stand out”
I am not against weave at all. My natural hair is temperamental but easy enough to manage It cannot be styled into an afro without spritz or letting it get washed then fluffed to oblivion. My hair is natural 4a/4b fine and dense. Yes I wear weave wigs clip ons etc because I choose to. I used to wear my natural hair out all the time but for now this is my choice. I dislike when a weave head starts saying nappy this nappy that. naps is what people refer to carpet pile. I am all for choice whether natural or weaved up. Just look after your hair
How can that woman talk about hair being unbelievable on a black woman if it reaches dem batty. So all these women like Kimmaytube of youtube with naturally kinky curly hair is faking the funk huh. Nah sah if black women educate themselves on good practices for hair care they can grow long hair and dont need no mix n blend dna going on. Because if you go back into history pre-transatlantic slavery long hair was not a myth and culturally not every African culture desires long tresses.
Just do you cah mi nah do anybody else but myself
I so agree. Many black men feel their hair is the bomb dot com. Yet when a female has the same hair as them they say she has bad hair or its nappy picky peppers etc.
I really just dont get the obsession with black womens choice in how they choose to style their hair with or without extensions. To me the popularity of weaves is in line when everyone wore braided extensions and now folk bussing kinky twist senegalese twists but if its a weave woah folk got issues kmt
Aaaand the video is now private.
If anyone cares (nobody, lol) I prefer natural hair.
Private??? Oh for goodness sake! LOL
Oh wait, it’s back!
Black women have grown up with the myth that we cannot grow our natural hair long. It is a complete myth, a quick look on youtube and you will see black women with natural long hair down their back. We have to treat our hair differently; wash it more often, moisturise daily and not use thick heavy greases that weigh it down. A good book that I bought a few months called ” The Science of Black Hair” by Audrey Davis-Sivasothy dispels a lot of the myths that we were brought up with…
If you want to hear weaves, wigs, etc, that is your choice, but you still need to look after your hair undearneath all of that. I have seen women with weaves that look like they have been in their hair for months on end and have started to get matted. You don’t want to end up like Naomi Campbell who now has to wear weaves as her real hair has all but gone
instead of commenting here.. a few of went straight to the source to talk directly via twitter….. so i wont waste you guys time but generally this post or video is unbalanced and if you watch it again there a few mistakes made by the presenters that i think they are gonna look into!~!… i hope!!
This should be interesting.
mmm why have they disabled comments on the video?
I have a problem with the weave period because it is just another item in the long line of fakery that black women have been guided to put on by the JewISH European sect regardless of the “brand” and the so called “quality”. Talk to any black woman who wears a weave and each one will give you a reason that they truly believe is unique as to why they are wearing it however, those reasons that you believe are your own were already given to you.
The weave, the fake eye lashes, nail extensions, the excessive make up and most of the other artificial regalia that black women put on today came from the corner of prostitution, it was prostitutes who first began wearing these materials when you look into the history of these items, they deliberately used these add ons to amplify their looks in order to entice and seduce men.
So, black women should be asking themselves who is promoting and encouraging them to wear attachments that came from prostitution and why? It seems that a certain sect still believe the stereotype that they manufactured out of whole cloth that black women are only fit for one thing and black women are fulfilling this phony stereotype daily by resembling the image of sex pots on heat.
This is also part of the trends agenda, seeing who can be lead to wear what is supposed to be the latest “fashion trend”(group think = Orwellian). Black women are in as much of a crisis as black men. Black women, you also need to stop the bredding, stop trying so desperately to try and fit in with folks who do not like you and who only use you to fulfill their fantasies and fetishes. We should really be looking at the root and the cohorts responsible for this division among us.
It doesn’t help that ‘black’ hair magazines relegate natural hair styles to a ‘soecial’ feature or only show avantgarde styles never seen without a catwalk. We have come a long way, but until the ENTIRE black community actually take stock and realise being natural is not a trend or phase it is what we are everyday and stop pandering to what we have been taught to looklike ignorance like this will prevail.
PS : The next black woman who says ‘your hair looks lovely but I dont think it would suit me’ will get a straight slap.
Why can’t we just celebrate and be proud of our differences that’s what makes us special, we’re not the same as white people, we’re different. Why do I want a black women trying to be a white woman? there’s no point I might as well get a white woman.
Lol @ people who blame Black Women for their hairstyles choices yet people do not acknowledge how Black men ( not all of them) DO NOT LIKE THEIR WOMEN LOOKING LIKE A BLACK WOMAN ( they are the ones who are drooling over women with long straight and wavy hair ). Even if it kills me saying that, Men play a huge part of what a lot women see as attractive. I also believe a lot of Black Women do not know how to care for their tresses and choose what they see as the easiest way.
I personally do not expect everyone to sport non-chemically treated hair like I do, I just want people to have The Choice and love any type of hair, especially the one they where born with.
Though the haircare and extension business do not profit ( financially speaking) @ Black folks at all
I do have a problem with teenage school going girls wearing weaves. I don’t know but i find it really weird when i see them in school uniform with weaves. Maybe they look too grown up at a young age or really confused about hair issues or image issues. But i have always wondered why some school girls feel the need to wear weaves at school. I don’t know but i find it weird. Even more weird when they are out shopping with their mothers with weaves on.
I wonder how many black women really listen to what a man wants regarding their hair. I thought they liked to suprise the men with all these different hair styles like any other woman. 🙂
‘Would you stick to your woman if she had nappy hair?’ LOL at the way the topic was phrased. Natural hair is not a disease. Black people need to stop it already. It is as if our natural hair is a new discovery to us. Like people don’t know what originally grew outta their heads. smh
I know right ? I am just SMH in disbelief. Short crop , mid-size afros I love it all . I know its a choice thang but no I don’t want to see tracks of weave on my way out or in the lift. I prefer them natural .
It’s just black women trying to keep up with European standards of beauty which is fed to us day in day out but it will never work since their genes are African not European.
I once went out with a Jamaican girl she was black but her grandfather was a coolie so she had long natural hair without a weave, one day we were walking along the street when a woman asked her who done her weave she said no one it’s natural, the woman didn’t believe her and started trying to dig into her hair looking for tracks. LMAO. I’ve never laughed so much in my life
The comment just prove how people associate long natural hair with having some type of mixing… Which is so UNTRUE
He could have just said he went out with a black/ Jamaica woman yet , he felt the need to point out that her racial background.
My bad………… so black women can have long straight natural hair without doing anything to it or if there’s no mixing?
@ Chico-Rei in a word, yes!
Well I learnt something new because I didn’t know that. If that’s the case why bother with weaves etc then?